Eloping, a hot trend at the moment for very good reasons - 12 of them in fact, is an affordable alternative to a big wedding and a great way to have a wedding that truly is all about you. Eloping can save you money but being easy on the wallet is not the only benefit.. By eloping you can side-step awkward family issues, enjoy a very personal wedding, and free up a lot of time to concentrate on each other, rather than the multiple decisions that go with a large, formal wedding.
Not surprisingly, because eloping reduces your wedding spend way below the average cost of a wedding, the wedding industry isn't keen on elopements. As a result bridal magazines routinely advise against eloping on the grounds that you will regret it.
Eloping no longer means running away together because parents don't approve, because the bride is pregnant, or because a cad of a man was influencing an heiress to marry him without parental consent to get his hands on her fortune.
Eloping in the 21st century is a rational choice being made by increasing numbers of couples, and not just for financial reasons. With the availability of civil celebrants in Australia you are not retricted to marrying in a rushed and legalistic ceremony in a dreary government office.
So here are 12 good reasons to elope:
You'd rather spend time together: A big white wedding can consume the equivalent of a full work week, every week, for a year or more in the multiple chores of advance planning. Eloping means you get to spend that time together, to focus on your relationship.
An intimate atmosphere is important to you: When it is just you and a very few friends (as few as the two required legal witnesses) your ceremony is a much more intimate experience than it would be if you were entertaining a large number of guests.
You have different priorities for your money: If you'd rather celebrate by staying at the best hotel, eating in the best restaurants, whether at home or for a destination wedding, or you want invest in your future, your home, or other major expenditure eloping can give you a wonderful but affordable wedding.
Doing something unusual appeals to you: Elopement increases your choices for where you have the ceremony, what you wear, the style and feel of your ceremony, how you celebrate afterwards, even what you eat. If fish and chips on the beach is your style, there's no-one to suggest it is not a good idea. And, if a gourmet meal is more your style, celebrating with a minimum of guests makes that option affordable.
You want to take back control: Eloping is not just a good way to control the guest list,. Because you don't have to deal with family members and friends' insistence that you do things their way, or that you must do things the traditional way, choosing to elope allows you have to have the wedding you want without compromising on any part of it.
Spontaneity appeals to you: Conventional weddings are usually scripted down to the last second. An elopement ceremony can be much more free-flowing, and anything that doesn't go to plan won't be a big deal because there will be no-one else's expectations to meet.
You can't face the stress of a big wedding: Large, formal, weddings can be very stressful, and not just for the day but for months and months before hand. There are multiple decisions to make, conflicting family demands and opinions to navigate through, and a budget that invariably blows out. Eloping removes those stresses and allows you to focus on your relationship.
You want your wedding to be fun: When you elope you can use your secret language, refer to your in-jokes, and ham it up if you wish - all without any fear of anyone tutting loudly.
You want to get married as soon as possible: An imminent change of employment or circumstance might mean that you need to get married as soon as possible, or you just might not see the point of waiting any longer than you have to.
You want to marry in secret: If you've been living together for years and everyone thinks you are married, or for some other reason you don't want a big fanfare, an elopement is the answer. Australian law doesn't require public notice be given, and as long as you have two witnesses you can be as quiet about it as you like.
You want to avoid sticky situations: Where there are religious or cultural differences between your families, where they just don't like each other, or where you have moved away from your own families' traditions, elopement sidesteps conflict and ensures that your day isn't marred by them.
This isn't your first marriage: Couples often want to avoid repetition of any part of a previous wedding. Eloping means you can create totally fresh memories without any echo of the past.
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